Long-term love relationships thrive when the love between you is durable.
It’s up to the two of you to create and maintain a strong foundation that both of you value. This is what will carry you through the inevitable challenges and confusion that come with the years and bring you into an ever deeper love and appreciation for each other. Creating a strong foundation requires some effort and attention, and it is totally do-able.
Each of you comes from your own story about how love is supposed to look and, regardless of how similar your stories may be, they definitely don’t match each other line for line. Tell your love stories to each other and accept each other’s love story for what it is. When the time comes that your stories collide and neither one of you understands how your beautiful love suddenly became so confusing, knowing and respecting each other’s love story will be invaluable.
5 Signs Your Love is Durable:
♥ Your beloved meets you in the relationship. This means that each of you takes the initiative to connect, resolve challenges, make couple time, know each other deeply, and take care of life’s responsibilities.
♥ You’re kind to each other. In your interactions you make space for each other’s truths to live. You speak to each other politely and respectfully and you’re tender with each other. You treat each other as though each of you is the most precious person in the world and each of you knows exactly how to live your own life.
♥ You show respect for each other. This is coming from the assumption that your beloved is just as capable as you are. It’s showing respect for each other’s free-will, ways of getting things done, and personal preferences. It’s cheering each other on in personal endeavors and wanting each other to be fulfilled and happy.
♥ There’s a healthy amount of mutual admiration going on. This is the stars in your eyes about each other. It’s showing appreciation for the person each of you chooses to be and the things you each choose to do with your lives. This is each of you seeing your beloved as special, amazing, precious, and one of a kind. You may even enjoy bragging on each other a bit.
♥ You resolve relationship challenges together. This means you and your beloved sit down and talk it out until both of you are satisfied with the result. If the challenge requires more than one conversation you pace yourselves for successful resolution by talking as long as it’s constructive, then taking a break for as long as each of you needs, then talking again and again as needed. And, you continue to lovingly connect with each other while you’re living with a challenge.
A beautiful description of an enduring love relationship is expressed in the old song I’ll Give You a Daisy a Day by Jud Strunk. This is the chorus: I’ll give you a daisy a day dear, I’ll give you a daisy a day, I’ll love you until the rivers run still, And the four winds we know blow a-way.
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Look for this article from me next week: 5 Signs Your Love is Fragile
Laughing Womyn Ashonosheni is a Wisdom Teacher, Shaman & Healer who helps Millennials, GenX’ers & Baby Boomers live in ways they find to be delightful. You can see more about her work at LaughingWomyn.com